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“Hold Off, Is This A Night Out Together”
the podcast about queer dating you won’t ever understood you usually needed, organized by myself, Christina, and Drew Gregory!
This podcast was given birth to away from Drew and I’s mutual passion for sound memos and deep talks about online dating. We have been delivering each other vocals memos just for over a year now, going deeply regarding things received really loves about online dating (men and women! fun! flirting!) therefore the things I hate about online dating (folks! Fun! Flirting!). We were having an enjoyable experience, innovative, and insightful discussions and honestly, it seemed rude to deny the more community of those!
Think of all of us as the friendly neighbor hood co-hosts, directing you through extremely particular queer dating conundrums because genuinely, straight matchmaking podcasts could never ever. Conundrums like: how can you flirt via IG stories? How can you take long, drawn-out flirting one step further? What does it imply to think folks are into you? We are going to talk with several of Autostraddle’s greatest writers, play some awesome particular video games, report on all of our pop tradition crushes of-the-moment and of course, just be sure to respond to the endless concern of our instances:
Waitâ¦is this a romantic date???
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Drew:
Hi, I Am Drew.
Christina:
And I Also’m Christina. And this is
Hold off, Is It a Date?
An Autostraddle podcast which centered on issue, “hold off, is this a date?”
Drew:
I am very thrilled to learn.
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Christina:
Yeah. I think we’ve been on a quest to find out what are times and preciselywhat are maybe not times, as friends, and in addition as a people, I believe.
Drew:
Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.
Christina:
Should we tell those queers and lesbians just what all of our entire indealment is actually, like whatever you’re up to within time?
Drew:
Like which we have been?
Christina:
Yeah.
Drew:
Yeah. I am able to go 1st. I’m called Drew Gregory. I am a filmmaker and an author for autostraddle.com, the website. I do countless movie and television feedback, and gender and internet dating writing, and private essays, and points that integrate all of those circumstances. I am trans I am also a lesbian, and that I feel like i will add a third thing because everything is in threes. Exactly what more? Just what more?
Christina:
Situations perform continue threes. You have got great locks.
Drew:
Oh, thanks a lot.
Christina:
You may have amazing tresses, In my opinion which is really important.
Drew:
Those are my identities. Trans. Lesbian. Great locks.
Christina:
Those are the identities.
Drew:
Yeah.
Christina:
I’ve always asserted that you happen to be a female of hair experience. I’ve always said that about yourself.
Drew:
Yeah. This really is crucial.
Christina:
Yeah. I will be Christina Tucker. I am also a writer at Autostraddle, as much as possible accept it, which writes about⦠oh, let us just state whatever comes to mind. That’s really the vibe. Also a lesbian. I’m Dark. I am not sure which otherwise I am.
Drew:
You might also need fantastic hair.
Christina:
Oh yeah, no, I mean, i believe it is perhaps a podcast of locks experience. Maybe that should be our tagline, “a podcast of hair knowledge.” I guess the folks are probably wanting to know how exactly we surely got to this podcast especially.
Drew:
Yes. And like every best part in daily life â and by that I mean, very, very few â it began as a highdea, as something which I sent you in a sound memo, large. And going back beyond that, we started giving vocals memos together at the start of the pandemic.
Drew, in a voice memo:
Okay. I am just planning tell you just like the emotions that i’ve, and after that you may go from that point and reply to me personally, maybe not reply to me, whatever. I am exactly like, this is certainly me becoming drive and clear. Okay. I am some body who⦠I like discussing online dating. It is one of my primary subjects of talk. I have now stated my portion.
Christina, in a voice memo:
Thank-you for claiming your own piece. Also, six moments and 54 seconds. Really, somewhat amazing to get that out in that period of time. I never truly contemplate internet dating. I think, perhaps, an opposite sense of you and your like to contemplate online dating and mention dating and, like, be internet dating. I do believe those tend to be my ideas. Really, i am giving a Drew-level sound memo, a Drew-length vocals memo now. I’m going to send this.
Drew, in a voice memo:
Yeah. I understand you do not remember matchmaking, not whenever myself, perhaps below others I understand?
Christina, in a voice memo:
I do believe about matchmaking less than virtually anyone I additionally know. I don’t know. I honestly do not know if I’ve met anybody whon’t remember matchmaking as far as I do or in so far as I don’t, I guess.
Drew:
We failed to really know each other. We were colleagues at Autostraddle, but for those of you that simply don’t know, Autostraddle is an online a workplace. Its a lot more of a Slack circumstance than a, all of us appear to like lesbian headquarters and briefcases. That is not truly the feeling. We don’t truly know both. Immediately after which, the start of pandemic, there clearly was some DM sliding plus some relationship building and some voice memoing. And now we would always joke that it was like we had a podcast because we’d send these lengthy sound memos. And then while I had been stoned, I happened to be want, “We in fact should.” And right here our company is.
Christina:
Yeah. I am aware everything suggest by large tactics not at all times becoming best tactics, but i really do have a tremendously clear recollection of hearing you claim that and being like, “Yeah, however we have to have a podcast. We’re executing for every various other. You need to ask others in it?”
Drew:
Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Usually my personal high tips tend to be such things as, “Oh my God, there should be a TV show labeled as
Get A Hold Of Your Superstar Dual,
in which you just take a celebrity and they meet a person who â like a random one who features their unique same delivery information. That can, is regarded as my large a few ideas that I think could well be great. Its likeâ¦
Christina:
Yeah, first and foremost, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright.
Drew:
That is a totally free one. I don’t care and attention.
Christina:
No, it is not. Drew, i am acquiring you money, my goal is to be your cash supervisor regarding. No way.
Drew:
I just want to see these items in the world. Generally, this is exactly a dating podcast, a queer matchmaking podcast. And another of the reasons precisely why its that topic, in place of a variety of other stuff Christina and that I discuss, is basically because i enjoy online dating and Christina does not love dating and that is a great small.
Christina:
Less of a fan.
Drew:
And conflict is really⦠this is where drama happens. I do believe Socrates mentioned that.
Christina:
Absolutely.
Drew:
This is exactly why that is our subject. We’re going to cover all kinds of things.
Christina:
Yeah. We’re going to discuss every one of the finest queer matchmaking conundrums, internet dating via Instagram.
Drew, in sound video from potential occurrence:
Correct me easily’m completely wrong, but i do believe Instagram is the better queer internet dating software.
Shelli, in audio clip from future event:
1000 percent. It will be the most readily useful.
Christina, in audio video from potential occurrence:
I heard this from other queers.
Shelli, in audio clip from potential occurrence:
Completely. It gives you you virtually everything required, unless of course somebody’s personal. But even if you’re personal, baby, we’ll uncover all about you, some kind of means.
Drew, in sound video from potential event:
We are going to speak about best sex we have now ever endured.
Dani, in audio clip from potential event:
And I finally asked like, “No, did you stepped on here to have gender? Tend to be we likely to make love?” As well as were like, “Yeah, that is what i desired.” Therefore had been like, the pet as well as the puppy happened to be when you look at the place there had been cat-and-dog hair every where. And I was like, undoubtedly having an allergic impulse while we happened to be having sex. The orgasm was actually, like, cook’s kiss. It had been the most wonderful experience.
Drew, in audio clip from potential episode:
Wow.
Christina, in audio video from potential episode:
We ponder if it is one thing towards hives that basically included. Like just a little âjenesequa’ to that particular climax experience. It had been like, “Ooh, i am slightly itchy also.” I ask yourself just how much that elements. We’re referring to just how to separation with folks.
Ro, in audio clip from potential episode:
It feels as though a very right culture thing, as well.
Christina, in sound clip from potential episode:
Yeah.
Ro, in audio clip from future episode:
About if you ask me, personally i think like⦠My personal directly pals are those who’re more likely to say, “Well, fuck that individual. That person sucks,” basically finish a relationship with someone. Whereas, queer folks in my entire life are those that almost certainly going to maintain friendships with exes or perhaps see our very own exes in a holistic method.
Christina, in audio video from potential occurrence:
Anything you could consider in an online dating podcast, and I’m perhaps not likely to rest for you folks, additionally much more. More than you can actually ever consider.
Drew, in audio video from potential episode:
If you are sexting via text, is-it like what you need all of them⦠have you been undertaking role-plays of a situation, like “you’re holding me immediately” or “If only you were holding,” just what tense tend to be we in?
Kayla, in sound video from potential occurrence:
Yeah, I became gonna ask similar question, actually, because that’s something’s usually interesting in my experience, especially just because we are all writers, in addition.
Christina, in audio video from future episode:
I happened to be gonna state, a team of article authors fancy, “What tense are we operating?”
Kayla, in audio clip from potential episode:
Perspective.
Christina, in audio clip from future episode:
It is a close third, what exactly is occurring right here?
Kayla, in sound clip from future occurrence:
Like, purely next?
Drew:
Listed here is the thing about queer people. Without a doubt.
Christina:
Okay. Pull-up a chair. Thank you for visiting the TED Talk. Let’s stop.
Drew:
There is a lot of encounters and are also much more fascinating. Merely as I take into account the way that straight men and women discuss dating, it really is thus dull. And I also think-so often, queer matchmaking conversations are extensions of mainstream matchmaking discussion, but adding things such as “developing” and “first-time you’re with a blah, blah, blah.” It’s like â absolutely a lot more nuance in so much more⦠It really is very interesting. Exactly what some sort of that it’s, queer gender and queer dating.
Christina:
We’ve used just like the really traditional type of dull design of heterosexual matchmaking and really introduced it into a new world, filled with long talks and handling the thoughts. Its amazing work.
Drew:
Yeah. I’m truly thrilled and I hope everybody are thrilled, because the basic event comes out a week from now right after which, there’ll be new episodes every Wednesday.
Christina:
This has been one week until you’ll hear all of our podcast. Nailed it. Crushed it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you’ll not only get
To L and Right Back
on Mondays, you’ll get
Hold Off, So Is This A Night Out Together?
on Wednesdays.
Drew:
And that I co-host both, so if you can’t stand myself, i assume you are not paying attention to Autostraddle podcasts. Incase you are doing like me, you’re welcome.
Christina:
Additionally, unless you like Drew, mature, is exactly what i need to state.
Drew:
I’m not for all, I am fine thereupon. In my opinion it should be best that you never be for all.
Christina:
Sure. I think which is completely reasonable. And maybe an interest we could go over on a single of our own future periods. What goes on when you’re not for everybody? I enjoyed that I moved like, “Ooh, let’s get this to all inclusive.” What are the results when you, we, as individuals. You mentioned, why don’t we perform a complete occurrence in regards to, “What if I’m not for everybody?”
Drew:
Really, it’s Leo period and that I’m a Leo rising and I decided which makes it about myself. 00:09:54].
Christina:
As am I. thank-you quite definitely.
Drew:
We are dual Leo risings about this podcast, and that is section of precisely why it will be so great. You’ll hear united states wherever you listen to your own podcast. It will be a pretty regular podcast circumstance. Nothing extravagant, no riddles would have to be resolved to find the occurrence, it’s going to be there for your family.
Christina:
Simply not the employer people. There are many choices, would what you will really.
Drew:
Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, there is united states on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you can email you at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And you may get a hold of me personally on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my name in our tight.
Christina:
I have viewed your social networking addresses many times and that I haven’t ever, until this minute, knew it is “draw.” Wow.
Drew:
Yeah. Really this is the thing, Drew was used and I do not know how⦠Oh, I was online dating some one that really⦠in fact this person who I dated, i did not get a great deal from that commitment, except I said this concept and she believed it was very amusing, like too amusing, truly, like area of the issue, I think perhaps. And that I had been encouraged to take action, immediately after which it is simply caught.
Christina:
Wow.
Drew:
But yeah. Often individuals think I’m a visual artist and also you know what, i enjoy be looked at that way, but i can not, I don’t really have design abilities.
Christina:
I will state you’ll find nothing much more about brand for Drew than being like, “Oh, that is the Twitter handle.” And you being love, “really, it is a funny tale about internet dating.”
Drew:
Indeed, exactly.
Christina:
Best.
Drew:
What exactly are individual manages, and are they connected to the intimate existence?
Christina:
Just, no. You’ll find me at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the website. While you wish to find me on Instagram, can be done thus, at @christina_gracet. And it’s truly fearless of us to know personal Instagram handle.
Drew:
Amazing work.
Christina:
Cheers a whole lot.
Drew:
It’s always a delight to talk to you and i am very excited to dive into all of these interesting topics. As well as for our listeners to make the journey to understand you somewhat much better and acquire to⦠i do believe we could all, i believe we are all planning to discover about trip.
Christina:
I really hope so. I subscribed to discovering.
Drew:
Yeah.
Christina:
Like a college length of podcasts. That caused it to be seem like a total bummer. So sorry.
Drew:
I’m not sure. I’d some really great school classes.
Christina:
Obviously, Used To Do also, but Really Don’t want to make anyoneâ
Drew:
Can you envisage just how amazing it will be if you arrived your college class and either of us ended up being your teacher, or we trained a class with each other, that’d be the hottest thing ever before. Men And Women is likeâ¦
Christina:
Preferred admission in town. Enrollment is actually from the information.
Drew:
Oh, we should have an event that is specialized in hot teachers. That’s not relevant.
Christina:
That is not maybe not appropriate. We’ll point out that.
Drew:
Sure, sure. I’m like there might be â you have to make it a tiny bit wider, but that knows? That knows what’s going to take the long run, that is certainly truly exciting. While understand who can understand? You, listener, as soon as you listen in every Wednesday.
Christina:
You listen in and you also crucially struck that outdated subscribe option and you can spend time with our company every Wednesday and get yourself, “What is a romantic date?”
Drew:
Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That delivers me to⦠I am not sure. I was only questioning⦠was this a night out together?
Christina:
Drew, no. This can be a podcast trailer.
Drew:
Oh, cool. Okay. Great. Okay. I believe I’m obtaining hang of it while understand what’s fantastic, is the fact that because I asked, today I’m sure, and now in direct communication is truly what it’s about.
Christina:
Asked and answered. The CT motto.
Drew:
And one that many folks in our neighborhood could find out. And then wewill, hopefully, this is really a site. This is exactly less of a podcast and much more of a political work.
Christina:
Wow. I found myselfn’t familiar with that, but i am happy to know that we are having both a podcast and a political work. Two of my favorite circumstances. Two of my personal favorite factors to start with P, podcasts and political acts.
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Christina, in a voice memo:
In my opinion my impulse is if I really like an individual and I want them in my own life, I’m sure the easiest way for me to keep them inside my every day life is to ensure they are a friend.
Drew, in a voice memo:
I am just so happy that people’ve become these buddies. And in case regarding quarantine, that is what occurred, I made this phenomenal new buddy, whom I adore dearly and I’m merely pleased to speak with you always, like what a gift.
Christina, in a voice memo:
Dammit. I got a thought plus it went out. It was honestly probably truly brilliant.
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